Top 3 Reasons We Fall In Love

According to Hani Henry, chair and associate professor of psychology in the Department of Sociology, Anthropology, Psychology and Egyptology at AUC, Robert Sternberg's psychological theory covers the most common reasons why we fall in love, namely: intimacy, passion and commitment.

Intimacy

A basic friendship is a relationship that involves a person falling in love with another person for intimate reasons. It lacks commitment and passion. Henry explained that intimacy isn't just about developing a close bond with someone. "Sometimes it's self-serving. Everyone wants to be loved and cared for. Women want to feel feminine, while men want to feel masculine.

Intimacy is captured perfectly in Adele's Hello song. In the song's chorus, Adele contacts her ex-boyfriend and pours out her heartbreak from the relationship. She admits that it has been many years since she last saw her ex-boyfriend and that she has not done any healing. "Her lyrics are magical and speak for a lot of people who want to have an emotional connection with anyone or a short-term relationship," he said.

Passion

Letting ourselves fall in love because of desire or strong feelings for a person is normal. Passionate love is a result of sexual attraction, romantic interest, and romance. Henry stated, "When someone you like is attracted to you by something that draws them to that person." "The attraction is not just physical. There is also a fascination for the hair, eyes, body."

Infatuation can develop with someone you love if there is not intimacy and commitment. "People are drawn and quickly develop lust. Some people are obsessed and see that person as a type of object. He said, "You can be in love with someone for years but not feel that there is any commonality between you two."

Commitment

Commitment is complete love. He said that people who are looking for commitment seek stability and a healthy relationship. People who only want commitment may not be attracted to others and lose basic friendship interests.

Henry stated that today's young adults are more concerned about objects than they are about relationships. He said, "The objectification of culture comes from consumerism." "The more consumeristic a culture becomes, then the more people lose interest in commitments. Some youth are more interested in impressing people they don't care about. So everything needs to be consumed, even relationships with people."

Love Outside the Triangular Theory

Sternberg's theory of love is universal. However, every person has their own reasons to fall in love. Science doesn't have to explain why you fall in love. Some personal needs can be the fear of being alone, social peer pressure, satisfaction or religious values," Henry said.

No matter what psychology says about love, our choice of type of love defines who we are. Each of us has our own ways of understanding what makes our lives happy and meets our human needs. " status on attitude  are caught with a need that meets each dimension of the triangle and they can't give up on two because of the different needs they get. Love is complicated."