Top Three Reasons to Fall in Love

Hani Henry, associate psychologist and chair of the Department of Sociology, Anthropology, Psychology and Egyptology, AUC, said that Robert Sternberg's psychological theories cover the most common reasons people fall in Love, namely intimacy, passion, and dedication.

Intimacy

Falling in love for intimate reasons can be described as having a basic friendship; it lacks commitment and passion. Henry explained that intimacy isn't just about developing a close bond with someone. Sometimes it is self-serving. Everyone likes to feel cared for and loved. Women want to feel their femininity, and men want to feel their masculinity."

A perfect example of intimacy captured is Adele's Hi. Adele calls her ex-boyfriend in the chorus and vents her pain about the relationship. She explained that many years have passed, and she hasn’t done much healing. "Her lyrics speak for many people who are looking to make an emotional connection, whether it's with someone they know or in a relationship that lasts a few months," he explained.

Passion

Letting ourselves fall in love because of desire or strong feelings for a person is normal. Passionate love can be developed from feelings that result in sexual attraction, romance and physical interest. "When  gitari  see someone you like, you are captivated by something that draws you to that person," explained Henry. "The attraction is physical, and there is a fascination with the hair, eyes and body."

Infatuation is a feeling of love that develops without intimacy or commitment. "People are drawn and quickly develop lust. Some people view a person as an object and become obsessed. He said that you can live with someone for many years without feeling any commonality.

Commitment

Total love comes from commitment. "People who seek commitment want stability and a healthy relationship," he said. "People who seek only commitment can be unable to find basic friendship and sexual attraction.

Henry said that in modern times young adults are more interested than ever in objects and relationships. He explained that objectification is a result of consumerism. The more consumerist a culture is, the less people are interested in making commitments. Some youth are more interested in impressing people they don't care about. Everything must be consumed, even relationships with other people.

Love Outside the Triangular Theory

Although it's common that anyone can relate to Sternberg's love theory, we all have our personal reasons for falling in love. Science doesn't have to explain why you fall in love. Henry stated that some personal needs could include the fear of being alone or social peer pressure, fulfillment, or religious values.

No matter what psychology says about love, our choice of type of love defines who we are. Each of us has our own ways of understanding what makes our lives happy and meets our human needs. "Some people feel compelled to satisfy every dimension of the triangle. They can't let go of one because they have so many needs. Love is very complex."